I came across a sermon where the message from the Holy Bible being taught was about marriage and sex. The sermon was preached on 1 Corinthians chapter 7. When you read the Holy Bible its impossible to conceive how so many preachers have come to the conclusions they did about what the verses are saying. I imagine that there are 1,000s of couples out there who have been stressed by what preachers have been teaching. I can’t believe the lengths of teaching some ministers are going to to express their view of sex in this scripture and then telling married people they should follow it! I found blog posts, books, sermons, counseling services and workshops all geared towards what they think Paul was saying about the importance of sex. Well I’m going to set a lot of couples minds at ease and clarify what 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 is actually saying.
Throughout the Holy Bible you will find warnings about the consequences of allowing sinners in your life and in the church, we won’t go into depth now but a few to mention, 2 Timothy 3:1-7, 1Timothy 5:22, 1 Corinthians 5 and what consequences sin has within the family,Daniel 6:24, and the story of what happened to Davids family as a result of his sin 2 Samuel 12:10-12 ad 2 Samuel 13-19. There are a lot more examples,(like Adam and Eves sin and how every single person born since is paying for it) but the point is- sin isn’t contained within the sinner, it affects those around it whether that other party is innocent or not.
1 Corinthians 6:16-20 ends by explaining what happens with adultery. When a man and women come together they become one flesh. Your body and mind is a temple of the Holy Spirit-you belong to God. You’ve given up your life, everything to Him.When we’re born again we are a new creation, a new creature and we shouldn’t defile our minds or bodies any longer. And when we get married, the flesh becomes one Mark 10:8. When 1Corinthians 7: 4 says that a wife does not have authority over her body, the husband does and the husband doesn’t have authority over his body, the wife does, this is because they are one flesh now, the wife’s sin becomes the husbands and visa versa. This is why Paul says (and the disciples agree) it is better to be single and be wed to God alone. Because when you’re married your not only responsible for your spirit but your actions affect your spouses -you sin, she/he partakes in the committed sin. They become tainted by your sin.
1Corinthians 5 is referring to, when Paul says “stop depriving one another” is by you sinning, your spouse is affected and afflicted with your sin and this separates them from God. Sin deprives us from God. God can’t have a full relationship with us when we’re sinning. So your sin is depriving your spouse from a unblemished rich and powerful relationship with God. When we are reborn all of our sins are forgiven. We are brand new. Our gift is salvation and if we are to keep it we have to live as holy as possible in order to experience the fullness of God and receive His blessings (I’ll write about that soon). That isn’t to say that we won’t sin ever again (and when the Holy Spirit is in us, we have lose the desire to sin as we see the truth to everything) but now we are fully aware how our sin effects others-and the less selfish we become, the better for everyone!
Paul emphasizes that being single is the best life-and although some are called to marry along with those who can’t contain their “burning passion” because its better to marry than live singly in constant lust, he says its better that widows and virgins and divorced people to not seek marriage. Seeing that Paul is advising against marriage since marriage keeps your full attention from being on God since now your thoughts and life is divided between Him and the interests of your spouse along with all the worldly thinking that goes with it (1Corinthians 7:32-34) marriage, it is hardly feasible to think Paul would place any importance on sex!
So to those who’ve been told by preachers and teachers of the Holy Bible-sex is soo important and the Holy Bible says so and by whom you’ve been made you feel guilty by telling you that its an important part of marriage-its not. Nothing comes before or in between or in place of our fellowship and obedience to God.